Mind over Matter

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I have quote on my wall that says “Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.” It’s a Japanese proverb.

I’m amazed at how much fear can hinder us. I’m more amazed at how it hides in insidious ways. I’m at a jumping point in a few areas of my life. I’ve been working toward these momentous things for years and now that they are about to blossom into something tangible and I’m terrified.

There I said it.

So here I am questioning my fear. Is it because the unknown is scary? Is it because my next ventures are ill advised and my subconscious is telling me to stop? Are there things I’ve not considered? Am I acting unwise? Or is it plain and simple-new stuff stinks? The old is indeed comfortable.

Regardless, going back to the proverb, my mind will dig me a pit a fear so deep I may never scale the walls and move forward. I like to examine my navel as much as the next person, but this is one of those times where pondering doesn’t equal clarity. It just makes things more murky.

So wish me luck. I’m jumping and I’ve turned off the doubt piece of my brain.

What do you to that helps you make decisions. Do you count on a feeling, rely on a well laid plan, or just suffer the consequences of saying “yes”  without much angst?

 

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It happened today.

Word on the street is that it would and today it    happened   to   me.

“What”, might you ask “happened to you?” Well I will tell you. I mentioned a frustration on Twitter about ordering shoes at Zappos.com and consistently finding the message, that the shoe in the style I wanted was not available.

I mean I’m a regular sized girl with regular sized feet so I am accustomed to finding my size available with out too much hassle. I know these things happen so the first and maybe even the second time I was like, wow, fancy that, I must have popular fashion sense.

If you know me at all I’m pretty conservative in my dress, however I do like a good looking shoe. It’s not too far from a possibility.

But by the 6th time my desired shoe was unavailable and I felt like I had to pick a secondary choice yet again I was frustrated.

It felt like not being the first one or even in the first 50% of a team being picked for dodge ball in Jr High. There was a sense that I wasn’t getting what I wanted.

I wanted to be picked first and I wanted my first pick.

Don’t get me wrong I ordered 3 pair of shoes.

One will be sent back. I knew after I hit send that it wasn’t the right one. But I have faith. Zappos’ reputation for customer service is unrivaled. I know it won’t be a hassle.

Having remembered reading something somewhere about a person saying such and such about a company on Twitter got him contacted by their customer service via twitter made me think let me tweet my frustration.

Then it happened. I got @julianna01-ed. I got tweeted directly from Zappos Customer Service with an offer to help me look for what I wanted. And really, I don’t want help to find what I wanted unless there’s a secret stash of shoes hiding, but I got remedy. I got noticed and that makes me happy.

Frankly, I can’t tell you how this ended because I’m in the middle of tweeting with them now, but I’m sure I’ll be satisfied because it’s Zappos and they didn’t have shoes I wanted but I still love them.

So what are you doing to meet your customers? What are you doing to reach out? Are there tools like twitter that you use to monitor your brand? Even if you are low tech, do you take critical comments seriously and work hard to find solutions? Wouldn’t you love to have someone gush about you and how you handled a tricky situation?

I know I would like that.

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I’m finding the need to have a series of posts about careers and how to change or grow them. This is the first in the series. I don’t know how many there will be. I’m thinking 3 or maybe 4.

“We’re in a society where HR is less and less about career development and more and more about benefits management. Companies are no longer the stewards of your development and career.” That’s Chris Brogan who I’m just silly over.

I have this weird school girl crush on him because everything he says just resonates with me.

And how he says it also drives home the points that we are in this together. Him and Mario Batali, they are the two people I use to answer the question “if you could have two people to dinner who would you invite?”

I think these two souls are passionate about what they do, and are humble, they work hard and know how to work a room. I think I’d learn a lot.

So back to careers.

Let’s assume you like what you do but you want to do more, or have greater impact or maybe you want to do less and be off work more. Regardless you and your career are not happy partners and you know it’s time to examine the quality of your work life.

This would be a great time to pitch an assessment that I’ve created, but I don’t have one and I’m not pitching anything but ideas. So let me start.

A super simple -overly simplistic way- to approach this is to say, figure out where the rub is then make it better.

That’s the answer to most conundrums, no?  So try to answer why is there an issue? Is it your job or your boss? Are you not making the money you thought you would? Is it outside pressure to do more or be bigger? Are you working hard and not getting recognized? Are you able to contribute more but not given the opportunity?

I came across best case scenarios of workplaces in my text books in college. HR was aligned with the senior levels of management; developing the human capital and striving to put the best brains on the payroll was the primary focus of HR. If you were identified as high potential worker you’d become the pet of HR and they’d buff and shine you up all pretty for the company (read professionally develop you extensively.)

That’s best case. That’s not real world for most of us.

In the world I know you are fortunate to get heard when you report that you got new training or that you want larger assignments and you are given new work. Often it comes down to being dismissed which leads to disengagement and unhappiness in the workplace. The real world I know uses metrics such as how long did it take to fill a position, not did the best person get put into the role.

So what’s a worker to do?

Back to Chris’ statement above. HR doesn’t do much to develop people these days. So who’s going to help you? Well there’s me and other coachie people but really it’s up to you. Stinks I know, but that’s how it is.

I’m not saying you are alone, part of fixing things is finding people to teach you or support you while you create change. But in the scheme of things you need to identify what it is you want to do, either do exactly like you are doing now, disengage more, or change for the better. (The keep, pitch or grow theory which needs it’s own post.)

Keeping on doesn’t need any new action. Disengaging, while you’ll change it’s not what I’m here for either, but growing?

Growing is gold. It’s the goop on the end of the Q-tip; it’s what we dig around for.

[The image up there now makes sense. Let me say there was a goop covered Q-tip flickr image I choose not to use, because while the imagery is potent it was a little too gross.]

So Post 2 is going to be about how to navigate that change. As far as blog postings go, I’m getting dangerously close to too long here. I promise I won’t keep you waiting too long for the next installment.

 

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So the book query thing is making my head swim.

Actually the query is good. I found a title. You see it up there 350. There’s more to it…but yeah for that.

I was tasked with creating the pitch-what’s the 3 minute version of my book. Why would someone want to buy it? For inspiration? To see where apathy, misogyny, and an overstocked pantry will give your child while your dropping acid or swilling Pabst Blue Ribbon?

I’m also tasked with finding other memoirs to read to find some comparisons. That’s not too arduous as I’m reading tons these days and loving it!

The problem is my timeline. I thought I’d be further in the process than I am right now. And then I recalled reading somewhere that everything is possible if you have a long enough timeline. To me that means stretching this out a bit longer than a few months and that is okay.

BTW, 350 is the typical temperature for baking/cooking in an oven. The book is about a cook’s way out of the kitchen and away from obesity. Managing my tumultuous relationship with food while getting a grip on my personal value and finding surprising amounts of joy in the process is part of the synopsis.

There you go, a not so well thought out posting, just some ramblings.

 

 

 

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