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This is brilliance which I forgot about until I hit the button in my reader.

Thanks Google Reader for always saving the good stuff for when I remember. Thanks Havi for being. You’ll find her stuff on personal ads here.

What’s a personal ad for your stuff you may ask?

You do a bit of asking here’s what I want, here’s how I want it to come to me and here’s what I commit to do to make it happen. The gravy part is checking in with yourself to see what you might be learning about how you deal with your stuff.

I’m struggling with my job situation.

I graduated a year ago with my MBA and certainly thought the job fairies where going to be begging me to come work for them. That’s not happening and I’m more than a little disappointed. However, I can’t let it keep me down, so I’m working on stuff. Here’s my personal ad to have a fulfilling and meaningful work-life, right now.

Here’s what I want: I want to love my 40+ hours a week I spend at work. I want to be powerfully moving toward my tangible goals. I want to positively impact the people with whom I contact.

Here’s how I want to receive it: I want it to flow with multiple purpose. I don’t want to work on one thing in isolation. I want my stuff to be layered and thick with meaning. I’d love it if working with Bob and Betty over there gave me something tangible over here. I’m not sure how it looks, but that’s okay.

Here’s what I’d rather not have: A list of shoulds and shame telling me that I should have different work or different goals. I don’t want other people’s renderings of what my work-life should be.

My commitment: My goals will be to take care of me and my family first, but also to provide growth and development to other people in my community.

What I’m noticing: It’s harder than I expected to lift the vale of shame I placed around me, I value stuff harshly and need to be more forgiving. My work is important and I can do it exceptionally well if I take responsibility for being accountable to it and the people I impact.

So what about you? What might you need to create a personal ad around? Got some stuff holding you back? Need some clarity? Are you a SWF searching for same? I shouldn’t type that, because you can’t find it here. But you know what I mean. If you were to do the exercise, what might you ask for?

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There was a coach the coach thing yesterday which happened at Franklin University, my alma mater. Bill Brewer from Designed Learning who did a presentation called Building Accountability and Commitment. 

It was some high level concepts-or painfully simple-you know how those are.

Choosing accountablity in the work place is so hard to stretch ones head around. We butt up against, overlap, and work together with so many different personalities it’s often hard to see where our agendas begin, the organization’s mission drives our efforts, and where the egos of all the players start and end.

The simple idea, the genius, is to approach all interactions with the commitment to be accountable for yourself

If everyone in all communities did that there would be a new world of possibilities.

The example that came to mind when a participant complained that if they show up deciding to be accountable, but others didn’t that he’d essentially be screwed.

Made me think of going to a potluck where there’s always tons of delicious food.

You can choose not to go, but then you don’t get to have a voice. Or you can go and pig out with little regard for your health. The last approach is you go, have a voice, eat a meal -not 3- and walk away enriched for the experience without having slashed your committment to yourself.

That would be being accountable. Right?

So how do you do that at work?

You decided before you enter a situation that you’re going to participate and that you’re going to get value from the experience. You decide that you’re going to take some risk which includes taking a leap of faith that others care for the general whole as well. That’s pretty much from the hand out I got, I don’t want to plagerize.

But wow. It’s caring about the general whole, the trust part that’s hard. Go back to the potluck analogy though, I can trust that people aren’t going to poison me. I trust that they kept their cat out of the food while it was cooking. And even more subtlely they didn’t use whole cream then tell me it was made with skim milk. Individuals have a certain amount of integrity.

Integrity is a important word for me.

It’s one of the core three that I use to rule my decision making. Optimism and persistence are the other two, incase you were curious.

I see integritiy as how I personally commit to myself, how I handle situations as right or wrong. It’s my internal measure by which I hold myself.

I see accountability as how I commit to you and others in my community. And my community is vast. It’s work, my daughter’s school, my family, my EGG DAY folk. Plus I see areas for improvement for myself.

How about you? Are you good with being accountable? In what ways could you improve your accountablitiy to the people around you that you impact? Can you stand up and make a promise in front of a group of people without internal negotiations and caveats? Would that make you itch? Tell me about it.

 

Freaking OUT

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I don’t usually say I’m scared and burst into tears.

I don’t usually reveal that kind of stuff in the space either.

What’s going on with me today?

I’m just a few weeks away from graduating from school. I’ve been at it for 5 years. I do deserve to get done with it at some point.

Add one more week to that and I’m getting parts of my body lobbed off. They are parts I don’t want, not like an arm or anything. It’s my excess skin, but really it’s still mine and it’s going to be costly and painful and disruptive to my daily flow.

I’m scared of all the changes.

Oh and they are happening in close succession because I’m a master with a Gantt* chart and I typically make things happen with pretty good timing. A few months ago I considered this good timing.

* I heart Gantt, I read his biography, and I don’t normally read biographies.

There’s a trip to Las Vegas in during the weekend between the two major life changing events as well. Yeah, I’m that good or that crazy depending on your point of view.

So after I burst out into tears, my person, who knows me pretty well, went on to ask about the surgery recovery. She playfully stated that by the end of the six weeks I’ll have my coaching business up and running and my book written.

I said, “You think you’re being funny, but that’s kind of the plan.”

She said, “I wasn’t being funny. I know that’s how you operate.”

There is no mystery to me.

And really, the plan is to be enrolled in some coaching certification program before then and to solicit agents for the book. Which means writing bits and bios and outlines and comparing like books. Also doing research on the coaching programs out there. Who knew there were so many?

But also cool, saying things out loud, to people like my on-line professor, such as, “Executive coaching is my ultimate career goal” got an offer to hook me up with someone she knows who is doing it for real, locally.

So yeah, Julianna doesn’t have a plan past the end of May and she’s freaking out 8 different ways.

 

 

 

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